The Price One Pays For Another’s Assumptions And His Own Honesty!
Albeit the greatest gift on this world is to love and to be loved in return; can you force someone to feel love just because you are in love with him, or want to presume that you are in love with him? Why would you continue to pursue him and put pressure on him, by professing your love repeatedly? Do you think by saying something a hundred times it becomes real?
Does love do this? Does it respect that the other individual has a mind, heart and soul that beats on its own? Does it allow for him to live his own life while continuing loving him in a silent and non confronting manner? Does it?
Do you blame the one who did not requite your love? Do you burn at every move he makes that might be a celebration of his being alive? Do you cry a tale of misery with every “loving couple” that loves a tale of pity and rejoices in the happiness that their “love” has found a sharing?
Why, why… I ask, does the one who does not love you, have to pay the price. The price of being called heartless, cold, ruthless??
Could this be the reason he never loved you back in the first place?
I am reminded of WB Yeats;
How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim in you,
And loved the sorrows in your changing face…
And for that man I shall wait, while I continue to pay the price for another’s assumptions and my own honesty.
posted by Purple Momentz at 12:54 PM
8 Comments:
Have you ever loved someone so much that you feel choked?
I have not had the good/bad fortune of experiencing such a thing... yet! But I know that one of my Ex did claim, ' I love you so much that It chokes me to death sometimes!' He is still alive and kicking, by god's grace though i am not in his life anymore. I walked away and saved him from choking himself... I guess.
love for whatever it is can never be a burden. Whether it is a friend or lover, the moment love becomes something you have to drag by its hair, lay it down and walk away.
Maybe you should have a re-think on how you approach people around you.
Human beings are socialized to love and expect love in return in whatever form or manner, sometimes it helps to talk it through, let the person down easy.
Often in your burning desire to find that perfect someone you do leave deep indelible impressions on others, impressions that need to be understood and nurtured and not pigeon-holded and thrown away!
Walking away is the easiest thing to do...but somewhere down the line, it catches up with you. You too can run the risk of becoming the victim of your own doing!
I do agree there is no point if love becomes a point of burden.
But i also feel that when someone tells "i cannot live/be without you" (hoping he means that fully) it is not that he/she is going to die if you are not there in their life. At the same time may be they carry something (may be happy memories) about the other through their life which does not leave them whatever the circumstances may be.
Moot point - At certain points when you are in love, i feel, take certain things only seriously. :-).
Anonymous you rae right in osme ways - in a man-man relationship you have the easiest opportunities/reasons to walk away
easily - atlest from what i have seen (may be iam right may be iam wrong)
Unrequited love is essentially an ego issue. The dumpee/unloved one persists only in the hope of an eventual conquest. If that doesn't seem like it will happen, the emotion transforms into irritation.
Nice blog da, will come by again :)
agree with you biker
Been on both sides of the fence, it seems love can do without the tags of requitted or unrequitter, true or false...
It is one of the highly abused words in the dictionary, all emotions when they cannot be summarised or assumed are somehow not classified as attraction, crush or just some chemistry and sparks.... they are more often than not called love
the emotion might be pleasant but situation gets worse with abuse of this word. the moment you do not want the person to be happy with someone else, it isnt love. When you hate the idea of him saying no to you, definitely it isnt love...
i guess we need to be more honest with selves, its just the fear of facing the truth that keep the so called unrequitted lover going after his prize trophy and fear of giving in that keeps the loved one away... Game of politics and power.. not love definitely... great write up.. cheers.. keep loving ;)
Great write-up..
I guess it's a human tendency to chase after what you can't have.. perhaps if the unrequited love suddenly became 'requited' the chaser would become the chasee very quickly.. :-)
It's more an ego issue than real love..
gosh i am the same anonymous!
I was f****** drunk that night as usual, I just checked my personal journal,
Sometimes, It's funny, to read ur own comment after a period of time, as if you are a robust life form, always evolving and improving to be able to survive (as per Darwin, f#$% him, but how can he explain the existence of first cell, as it all happened by chance, like the sky is blue, honey comp is made of hexagonal units, Zebra have stripes..and all the self made patterns in nature)..
as i don't have my own blog, i will live like a parasite on ur blog (as some Mr. s*L*** K****a said once, categorizing me)
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